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11/12/2016

Parents Everywhere Demonstrating What Truly Awful Parenting Looks Like

Filed under: General — Dana @ 1:36 pm



[guest post by Dana]

It’s the way of life that kids get saddled with their parents’ collective neuroses and shortcomings, which later in life are euphemistically referred to as “baggage”. Of course there varying degrees of these shortcomings we transmit to our children, various levels of anxieties and traumas that spill over on them and impact their lives. But after seeing the reaction of so many parents to the election results, I have to wonder, where are the adult parents? Because the reactions I’m seeing are anything but adult-like. And further, why are these child-parents ignoring the wisdom of age-appropriate conversations and assuming that young children are capable of understanding and processing adult matters?

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I’m confused by all of this post-election hysteria taking place. Call me a simpleton or out of step with modern parenting, but I believe it’s safe to say, if you can’t cope with an election not going your way and are on a crying jag as if you lost your job and can no longer put food on the table or provide your children with a roof over their head, you are one pathetic excuse of a parent. If you are so traumatized at seeing democracy at work, that you are seeing a therapist or calling a suicide prevention hotline to cope with Trump being elected, then what possible strength can you offer your children to survive YOUR trauma-drama? After all, you’ve clearly demonstrated you are but a child yourself. And not in the cute way like when parents play silly kid games with their offspring. And if you are spending your time writing little post-it notes of pain on the subway walls, how do you plan to teach the fundamental truth to your children that life doesn’t always go the way you want and to learn to accept disappointment with grace and maturity? This used to be called being an “adult”.

It appears we are raising a generation of emotionally stunted neurotics who will lack the necessary tools to reach maturation and be able to face disappointment with a vigorous “Oh shit, that didn’t go the way I had hoped,” and then look ahead toward the next challenge on the horizon. Of which there will be many. Perhaps keeping it short and to the point would be best for every parent involved:

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But then there are those “parents” so filled with hate and incapable of coping with disappointment that they are looking emotional basketcase in the rearview mirror. Consider one utterly profane woman in Texas whose disappointment in her 8-year old son for voting for Trump in his school’s mock election resulted in utter cruelty toward the boy. No doubt her actions will haunt this child forever. This walking-talking vulgarity does not deserve the honor of being called “mom”:

According to this report, the vile bitch in the video told detectives and reporters that it was just a joke.

Postscript: Here is what a “professional” thought about her parenting decision:

“She’s projecting a little of her anger onto her son. It is a little bit abusive. I think she thought it was fun. But in the end, he’s probably going to be OK,” Bob Sanborn, president and CEO Children at Risk, said.

In a society gone mad, indeed.

–Dana

63 Responses to “Parents Everywhere Demonstrating What Truly Awful Parenting Looks Like”

  1. I am not feeling very optimistic about the next generation…

    Dana (d17a61)

  2. I am not feeling very optimistic about the next generation…of liberals.
    Dana (d17a61) — 11/12/2016 @ 1:38 pm

    FIFY. I am optimistic about the next generation of conservatives.

    felipe (023cc9)

  3. that’s a lot like how families are in north korea

    conformity’s very important to them it’s a cultural part of their society

    happyfeet (28a91b)

  4. My niece said it best.

    “Trump won. What’s for dinner?”

    DCSCA (797bc0)

  5. felipe,

    While I tend to agree, it’s simply a reality that our public schools, beginning in elementary levels, are teaching, if not supporting these reactions and inabilities to cope. The more self-indulgent a parent becomes, they transmit this to their children, and if the schools are reinforcing that (or even leading), the weaker the individual becomes. If not parents and/or schools and/or media to present a healthy and constructive option, then who? I would like to say churches, but I doubt these are the sorts of parents that believe we are fallen from grace and in need of a Savior for redemption…

    Dana (d17a61)

  6. Bet that all of these snowflake pansies never learn to ride a bike or a horse, after falling off, they will go to their safe spaces, and never return to try again! My God, we are doomed to be invaded and conquered by 12 commie old grannies with brooms when these children become our “protectors.

    peedoffamerican (310909)

  7. Dana, it’s not just liberal parents. I’m afraid we even have to point some blame at some good Conservative parents who were successfully raised by their own parents to observe the world confidently and to think and problem solve for themselves– and unfortunately did not fully realize how much the world had changed for their own kids in the 21st century. So many millennial “children” aka snowflakes simply do not appear to have the tools or the will or the grace to think for themselves. They have been so brainwashed by schools and social media that they find it more comforting to think and act in groups rather than as individuals.

    I have several dear friends who have had the shock of their lives this week from their kids’ hostile behavior. The kids absolutely knew their parents were Republicans but were so cock-sure of Hillary’s victory that they didn’t think their parents’ “ridiculous” votes would matter. Now that they know the votes DID matter the offspring are all “How Could you ruin our lives this way? Don’t you care at all for my future?” These friends are now so wishing they had intervened more and fought back against the liberal zeitgeist with greater urgency as the kids were growing up. The worst part is nobody knows if these tantrums are a short term squall that will blow over, or whether this is the start of a discomforting lifelong family estrangement.

    elissa (35da79)

  8. Let me guess…Bob Sanborn, president and CEO Children at Risk, is an uber liberal Clintonite.

    And worst child political abuse I saw was the little girls protesting with slogans like “my body my choice” on their faces, like they were looking so forward to their first abortions! And their parents probably urged them on!

    And the lady in Texas? Jail time.

    Scott Adams writes well on why everyone is hysterical on Clinton’s side.

    Patricia (5fc097)

  9. These parents may be the result of two or three previous generations that have been ruined by such parental practices. I ran into a family in the late 80s that was surely worse than all but the woman who dumped on her 8 year old son for voting for Trump. The little elementary school hoodlums would run after me as I walked thru the neighborhood calling me racist and any number of other profane things without knowing my name, or anything else about me except that I was a Republican. They were like yappy lap dogs. And their parents encouraged it.

    Pretty clearly the parents wanted their kids to act as surrogates. I thought it was the height of cowardice. Children behaving like ill aggressive little lapdogs. Way too many people have difficulty recognizing and accepting responsibility.

    This was during the societal psychotic episode that propelled people like Janet Reno into the lime light as they prosecuted innocent people based on “recovered memories”. Having to deal with problems created and nurtured by progressive ideologies is nothing new. But the means of expressing the underlying insanity does change.

    BobStewartatHome (b2bab4)

  10. There seem to be more societal institutions that perpetuate this mindset than not. And that has become increasingly so the past three decades. Watching the evolution of identity politics be normalized has done as much damage as anything. The last eight years has been one giant binge of self-indulgence, and we’re the weaker for it.

    Dana (d17a61)

  11. Patricia,

    According to their website, one of Children At Risk advocates’ main causes is, you guessed it, parenting.

    http://childrenatrisk.org/content/?page_id=8045

    Dana (d17a61)

  12. busy phillips who replaced michelle williams on dawson creek, like that punk jason biggs, from the american pie films, and his charming better half, gag,

    narciso (d1f714)

  13. it’s just a web of mind arson,

    http://childrenatrisk.org/content/?page_id=60

    narciso (d1f714)

  14. brian bendis, is a despised comic book artist, as for miss jeffery

    http://childrenatrisk.org/content/?page_id=60

    narciso (d1f714)

  15. beyonce is not a separate subject,

    https://www.theguardian.com/profile/michael-arceneaux

    and when sally cohn, shirley she can’t be serious,

    narciso (d1f714)

  16. these people are in a dyson worthy sphere, relevant to very little,

    narciso (d1f714)

  17. This post reminds me, where’s Dustin?

    LBascom (b97a97)

  18. he really put himself out there with the crystal balling

    happyfeet (28a91b)

  19. “Probably” going to be ok.

    No, it won’t be ok if you are proud of tormenting your child with a promise and apparent delivery of ejection from the family circle if they cross you in a mock elementary school election that has no meaning.

    If he learned a lesson in civics that day, it’s the value of a secret ballot.

    He also learned his mother is a very bad person who enjoys torturing him for her own satisfaction.

    SarahW (3164f0)

  20. Dustin is too sensible to be off fastening diaper pins to his lapel, but if Trumps election was a surprise to me, I’m sure it was an unpleasant one to him.

    I figure there’s a period of adjustment.

    SarahW (3164f0)

  21. Last I saw from Dustin he said he wouldn’t be back until Col Haiku got “moderated”.

    I think he’d be happier if he came back without waiting for that.

    Gabriel Hanna (c791b9)

  22. Look, I wasn’t a Trump supporter either, but now that he is the president, I’ll be looking ahead with hope and a willingness to support him if and when he makes decisions that protect our liberties,freedoms, conservatism, and ultimately, to keep America safe. But at this point in time, it’s really anybody’s guess what his actual policies will be. I’m sure Dustin is no different, nor any other commenter who chose not to vote Trump. We are not hysterical liberals, and we can accept reality and push ahead. Life doesn’t stop because we are shocked or disappointed. It just keeps tumbling forward, demanding our attention.

    Dana (d17a61)

  23. she was on that annoying show, cougartown, which they kept previewing on the commercials they now run with our eight dollar ticket,

    http://www.today.com/parents/busy-philipps-explains-her-daughters-names-cricket-birdie-2D79346503

    narciso (d1f714)

  24. …The worst part is nobody knows if these tantrums are a short term squall that will blow over, or whether this is the start of a discomforting lifelong family estrangement.

    elissa (35da79) — 11/12/2016 @ 3:37 pm

    I’m afraid the damage will be long term. These children have been raised by the schools to be psychologically fragile. The very idea of seeing “Trump 2016″ written anywhere is, as far as they’re concerned, unbearable. So of course they can’t imagine how they’ll get through four years of a Trump presidency. Nothing in their lives has prepared them to confront an idea they disagree with, let alone handle the thought of a President they’ve been indoctrinated to reject.

    As someone commented on the riots following Trump’s victory, this is what happens when you hand out trophies to kids who lose as well as win. They never learn how to lose. They’re taught to believe they always win. They can’t deal with it. And worst of all they’re taught their uncontrollable rage tantrums are the understandable and appropriate reaction to not getting their way. They’re supposed to be triggered, and when they are it’s all the fault of whomever used the words that triggered them.

    I’m not going to claim most parents raise their children wrong. In fact, based upon my experience dealing with 17 and 18 year olds in the Navy I’m convinced that these special snowflakes having their meltdowns are a small minority. Let’s face it, anyone willing to write “Not My President” on their forehead with a Sharpie isn’t likely to want to join the armed forces in the first place. Or, for that matter, likely to have a job at all. But there are still way to many of them and they are getting all the press. Too many parents seem to abdicate many of their responsibilities to the schools. The schools cultivate what amount to mental disorders in those children. Phobias about monsters under their beds and in their closets. And it’s the noble teaching profession in particular and later government in general to keep them safe from such monsters. Like Trump.

    Steve57 (0b1dac)

  25. Lots of people in my circle who think they are somehow in imminent physical danger now, grown ups besides themselves that any Christian could have ever voted for Trump (as opposed to Clinton).

    Too many people buy the zeitgeist that if you are not a liberal then you must be evil incarnate.

    Sad.

    But I did have a very nice and rewarding conversation with a non-conservative teacher last night.

    MD in Philly (f9371b)

  26. Those parents are all fools.
    Our schools need to take up the slack and start teaching history again in a way that gives perspective.

    I’ve lived through some elections that left me wondering about our future, and through elections that had me happy and others wondering.

    If California had voted in favor of a statewide porn film condom law, the industry would’ve adjusted by filming in Las Vegas, or on Indian reservations or in Jumbo Jets circling Bob Hope Airport.

    The Obama Administration has been a nightmare for lots of folks, 99.9999999999999999999999999999% of whom put their heads down and figured out how to survive and even thrive. Obamacare has been a nightmare for many, but it never occurred to them that the thing to do would’ve been to start dumpster fires and then go nab a couple flat screens from WalMart

    steveg (5508fb)

  27. When I was 6, JFK got elected. The only thing that was traumatic about that was that the TV got broke somehow.

    Kevin M (25bbee)

  28. This isn’t only the parents, it’s the schools, many of which are teaching kids that Trump is a President they should hate. The politicization of the classroom is probably the worst thing that has happened in the schools, and that’s got plenty of competition. How can kids reconcile Trump with American heroes like Malcolm X and Chelsea Manning?

    Kevin M (25bbee)

  29. true, but as michael tracey, pointed out, there were very few outlets even putatively on our side, that didn’t paint him as merely ignorant at best, and evil at worst,

    narciso (d1f714)

  30. Off topic, a very good post mortem from VDH: http://www.hoover.org/research/why-trump-won

    LBascom (d82ccd)

  31. Thanks for that link,
    I will pass it on.

    MD in Philly (f9371b)

  32. For those like Dana still worried over the Donald, today’s feel good story: http://www.powerlineblog.com/archives/2016/11/early-returns-on-trumps-appointments-are-good.php

    Donald Trump has been appointing members of his transition team, appointments that presumably foreshadow the ultimate composition of his administration. So far, I have been impressed by his choices. A case in point is Myron Ebell, who will lead Trump’s EPA transition team. The headline says it all: “Trump Picks Top Climate Skeptic to Lead EPA Transition.”

    (Here’s yesterday’s in case you missed it: https://pjmedia.com/trending/2016/11/11/trump-to-support-nationwide-concealed-carry/ )

    LBascom (d82ccd)

  33. Well, they warned us there would be violence after the election….

    WarEagle82 (641089)

  34. mike rogers heading the national security transition, doesn’t inspire confidence, most likely they won’t listen to him, generals flynn and kellogg

    narciso (d1f714)

  35. Dear Son-

    I survived 8 years of Obama, 8 years of Bush Jr., 8 years of Clinton and 4 years of Bush Sr. since the day Reagan went home. Which tells you this is a great resilient country.

    You’ll live.

    May be the economy will pick up now that we have a president who’s more concerned with American jobs than which toilet trannies use, diversity, or faraway Muslims yearning to breathe free. This will be a new experience we have not had since 1989. Trump is a human being which means he will fail and disappoint us sometimes. Lets’ be hopeful he surprises us all in great and small ways.

    Dad

    Bugg (820f2c)

  36. Kevin M is right, this politicization of our public education system is a crime. Just the thought that I as a taxpayer am funding this crap is nauseating. When will this madness end?

    Colonel Haiku (3bf827)

  37. Off topic, a very good post mortem from VDH: http://www.hoover.org/research/why-trump-won

    LBascom (d82ccd) — 11/12/2016 @ 6:03 pm

    Great article. I love VDH.

    Bill H (971e5f)

  38. Democrats: “we warned you that there would be violence in the streets of our cities if Trump was elected.”

    Trump voters: “Violence committed by who?”

    Democrats: “Us.”

    Colonel Haiku (3bf827)

  39. they clearly haven’t thought this through,

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOOTKA0aGI0

    do they think violence only runs one way,

    narciso (d1f714)

  40. Chelsea Manning needs a flat screen out there in Leavenworth. Rather than going through the traditional channel and buying one, I’ve chosen to liberate a flat screen during the anti-Trump rebellion.
    I’m actually more pro-rebellion than anti-Trump, particularly when I can loot, burn and plunder with the tacit nod from the Democrats and their media honks

    steveg (5508fb)

  41. Dana (d17a61) — 11/12/2016 @ 2:15 pm

    Yes, I agree with you on that, Dana.

    elissa (35da79) — 11/12/2016 @ 3:37 pm

    You make some very good points, elissa, especially about education (and its continuum). But the natural contrariness to parental instruction, in children, holds true for liberal parents as well. But I do acknowledge the massive “thumb-on-the scales” of the current public school paradigm.

    felipe (023cc9)

  42. (and, I would add,its continuum)

    FIFM!

    felipe (023cc9)

  43. Funny how all of those tweets were about “8 year olds.”
    It’s almost like they were each responding to Democrat talking points or something.

    Cruz Supporter (102c9a)

  44. “If he learned a lesson in civics that day, it’s the value of a secret ballot.”

    Well said, Sarah, I want all adults to learn that lesson.

    “He also learned his mother is a very bad person who enjoys torturing him for her own satisfaction.”

    I don’t agree with this at all; Steve57 explains:

    “I’m afraid the damage will be long term. These children have been raised by the schools to be psychologically fragile.” -snip- “Nothing in their lives has prepared them to confront an idea they disagree with,”

    This child is being conditioned to fear “crimethink.” The mother is reinforcing the public school conditioning. In the liberal mindset (I imagine), this is what “tough love” probably looks like and will be excused by liberals.

    felipe (023cc9)

  45. Every time I saw Alec Baldwin pretending to be Donald Trump on SNL — and you can’t avoid seeing something like that, even if you don’t watch SNL, which I don’t — I flashed back to the abuse he was caught heaping upon his then 11-year-old daughter via voicemail:

    Hey I want to tell you something, okay, and I want to leave a message for you right now, cos again it’s 10:30 her in New York on a Wednesday and once again, I have made an ass of myself trying to get to a phone to call you at a specific time. When the time comes for me to make the phone call, I stop whatever I’m doing and I go and I make that phone call at 11 o’clock in the morning in New York and if you don’t pick up the phone at 10 o’clock at night and you don’t even have that goddamn phone turned on.

    I’m tired of playing this game with you. I’m leaving this message for you to tell you that you have insulted me for the last time. You have insulted me. You don’t have the brains or the decency as a human being. I don’t give a damn that you’re 12 years old or 11 years old, or a child, or that your mother is a thoughtless pain in the ass who doesn’t care about what you do as far as I’m concerned.

    You have humiliated me for the last time with this phone and when I come out there next week. I’m going to fly out there for the day just to straighten you out on this issue. I’m going to let you know just how disappointed in you that I am and how angry I am with you that you’ve done this to me again.

    You made me feel like s*** and you’ve made me feel like a fool over and over and over again. And this crap you pull on me with this goddamn phone situation that you would never dream of doing to your mother and you do it to me constantly and over and over again. I am going to get on a plane and I am going to straighten your ass out when I see you.

    Do you understand me? I am going to really make sure you get it. That I’m going to get on a plane and I’m gonna turn around and come home. So you better be ready Friday the 20th to meet with me. So I’m going to let you know how I feel, about what a rude little pig you really are. You are a rude thoughtless little pig. Okay?

    Baldwin has been in many, many undignified and highly impaired public spats with paparazzi and others, all involving verbal abuse and some involving physical violence. But Alec Baldwin is indeed who SNL/NBC/the MSM/Team Clinton chose to portray — or rather, to mock, sanctimoniously — Trump.

    Magnificent casting, and magnificent hypocrisy.

    Beldar (fa637a)

  46. Heh! I don’t blame Baldwin for that. Not one little bit. Not too long ago, my daughter was at a school football game with her friends and not answering the texts from her mother who was checking to see if she was alright. Her mother drove up there and made her get in the car and come home. Embarrassed her in front of her friends? You betcha. Tough cookies.

    Baldwin was stupid to leave the recording on an answering machine whereby Kim Basinger could embarrass him with it. And they were both bad jackasses for not being totally united when it came to raising their daughter.

    nk (dbc370)

  47. he knows her better than we do

    happyfeet (28a91b)

  48. “This child is being conditioned to fear “crimethink”.”

    The mother is just following the lead of the indoctrination center, reinforced by standard propaganda. It’s entertaining watching the idiocy of the Madison protests against Walker in ’11 being amped up to national level. It was even more entertaining to watch Walker/Ryan/Priebus send Johnson back to the Senate (and Feingold back to his homeless shelter) with 70,000 more votes than Trump received.

    Rick Ballard (bca473)

  49. Good to hear. For prez,The Driftless region of Se. Minneota, NE Iowa, SW Wisconsin and even NW IL did a whiplash turn from blue to red, the WI portion overcoming some softness in the WOW area

    urbanleftbehind (3f3997)

  50. With all this rioting going on, one would think Obama would be sharp enough to recognize this as one of his “teachable moments”. But one would be wrong.

    Between the silence of the Obama administration and the slobberings of the son of a whoarhouse laundress Reid, they are shown for who and what they truly are.

    Colonel Haiku (2601c0)

  51. ULB,

    Portman out polled Trump by 276K, Rubio by 206K, Grassley by 124K and Burr by 31K. Rick Scott did a great job in Florida and the rural/suburban turnout in Pennsylvania was finally high enough to overcome the Philly machine.

    Trump’s no coat tails victory is going to provide some very interesting interaction with Congress.

    Rick Ballard (bca473)

  52. Interesting observation, Cruz Supporter!

    Yes, they all happen to be eight years old. Hmmmm….

    Patricia (5fc097)

  53. Priebus as Trump Chief of Staff? He really went outside the establishment on that one.

    Rick Ballard (bca473)

  54. ugh Priebus is nasty

    happyfeet (28a91b)

  55. but if it gets his feckless nasty ass out of his current job that’s actually progress

    happyfeet (28a91b)

  56. “It is a little bit abusive. I think she thought it was fun. But in the end, he’s probably going to be OK”
    Maybe. I wasn’t there. But that sort of abusive betrayal by the one children most need to know they can count on can leave a lasting impression. I know people who, fifty years later, remember something a parent did.

    pst314 (79c5c1)

  57. Here’s a true story about a different 8 year old. It was exactly 46 years ago, November 13, 1970. My mother stepped into a crosswalk in East Meadow, New York and was run down by a motorist. While her corpse cooled, someone ran up and stole her wallet, going on a shopping spree at Macy’s. Then the woman that killed her sued my mother’s estate for the emotional trauma of my mother’s body crashing through her windshield.

    We waked her on Saturday and Sunday and buried her Monday morning. In the early afternoon, at lunchtime, my father sent me back to school so I would only miss half a day.

    Note to liberals–if you are an adult and the worst thing that has ever happened is that your candidate lost an election, you are one lucky bastard. Enjoy life.

    Andrew B (e21023)

  58. I illustrated what three scoops of crazy, we’re dealing with, a bit player from cougartown, an avante garde gay black author, a substandard comic illustrator

    narciso (d1f714)

  59. LBascon,

    I explained this in my most recent comment a few days ago here: http://patterico.com/2016/11/08/donald-trump-is-the-next-president/#comment-1948993

    Wow. I’m honestly shocked that this wasn’t a blowout landslide for Hillary. I’m man enough to admit I was utterly wrong. I also hope my warnings about what kind of President Trump will be are wrong. Like I rooted for Obama to succeed I will root for Trump to succeed.

    Congrats to Trump’s fans. I’m sure this is a great thing for them. I hope the ugliness they are showing tonight isn’t a long term thing but I’m not holding my breath.

    Back to not commenting here. Love the bloggers here but the endless ugliness from the trolls makes it very tedious to participate. Just like with the fringe left, many devout partisans think basic respect and honesty are expendable in this internet battle they think they are waging.

    Let’s all pray for Trump to be an honorable and humble President who keeps his word on a number of issues from the Supreme Court to immigration to deficit reduction.

    Dustin

    Sarah’s right (and thanks for the kind word).

    Gabriel Hanna, I’m not sure why you’re so concerned for my happiness, but it’s a big damn internet and there are a lot of places to chat about politics without tedious trolling about my middle eastern heritage from Trump voting nutjobs. Perhaps I would be a happier person if I just ignored that stuff, but in the meantime I’m just glad such things were not said in my face where there would be actual consequences for my lack of temperament.

    This is a great blog and I’m reading it every day, but I’m not all that interested in the comments in their current condition.

    Dustin (ba94b2)

  60. yes, they haven’t changed,

    https://twitter.com/JasonBiggs/status/796230924614717440

    neither is her gosnell girl loving significant other,

    narciso (d1f714)

  61. I admit her appearances have been sporadic, perhaps one episode on suits,

    https://twitter.com/jennyandteets/status/796373815626465281

    narciso (d1f714)


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